I cant handle her anymore...

[Jomana]

I really do need help.......

my daughter whoes 22 months old is driving me crazy, i dont know what to do, she cries the whole time, I cant take her anywhere where there are people in, she breaks stuff yells, and embarreses me anywhere i go, she gives me a hell of a time, i dont know what to do, she doesnt play with anything more than 5 minutes and she is always bored, i do everything i can to make her happy, i take her out to play, i let her play inside i sit with her and really everything....am still breast feeding her and i want to stop but with this behaviour and she does not eat anything only the milk, so i dont know how to stop giving her, i cry everyday because of her, i yell at her the whole time and always punish her but nothing is working, really nothing, i dont go anywhere because of her, i hate my life.......


any help?

[hotflash]

HI! Do not despair! My son was the same way, and it will get better.

Call your county's "Early Intervention" program (ask your local school for their number).
It sounds like your child does not yet have language skills to tell you what she needs...
(My son's problem). They will test your daughter for language delays or other delays, and you will be able to get a speech therapist, and possibly a SEIT (special ed itinerant teacher) to come to your home for therapy. THIS IS FREE UNTIL THE AGE OF THREE IF YOUR CHILD QUALIFIES. After age three, then your school district will pay.

The 2 or 3 times a week therapy session will give you a break from your child, and your child a break from you! This is so important!

Also, she may have a reaction to some food items - diary?- which you should pursue with your doctor.

I know some days it seems impossible! I HAVE DONE LOTS OF CRYING MYSELF.
Sometimes when my son would carry on, I learned that if I gave him his pacifier and picked him up, it would help.

Let me know how your are doing.....we are here for you.

[Jomana]

thank you so much, I will research for that actually, it might be a real good help for me, I need a break from her, and so does she...

my biggest problem now is how to stop breast feeding her, she does not eat anything at all, and she is almost 2 yrs old, I have to stop breast feeding her but whenver i try to i cant because I feel guilty that this is all the has , and she drinks it all day and night the whole time, what can I do? how can I stop breast feeding her? I feel weak because of all the milk she is taking from me, I need to get my health back by stopping , but how? she won't let me even try to stop

[homesteadma]

If you let her get hungry enough, then refuse to breast feed but offer her food instead, she will throw a fit but after awhile she WILL eat. Don't give in, stay calm, and don't feel guilty about it! Ignore her pitiful fit she will throw, and keep offering her the food. Perhaps eating a bit of a banana yourself in front of her, and continuing to offer her some. You have to show her that YOU are the boss, not her.
I had a neighbor whose child could not hear well due to undiagnosed ear problems, and also caused him not to speak much, or clearly. I agree that the child should have this checked out by pro's.

[SaraLou]

Hi,
I am not speaking from experience, but a helpful tip I have been given for weaning is to breastfeed first, then offer a very small amount of food AFTER the feed. This way, the baby is getting used to the texture of the food, but isn't so phased by it as they are content after a feed.
Hope this helps.
Sara

[DaNk]

Originally Posted by hotflash

HI! Do not despair! My son was the same way, and it will get better.

Call your county's "Early Intervention" program (ask your local school for their number).
It sounds like your child does not yet have language skills to tell you what she needs...
(My son's problem). They will test your daughter for language delays or other delays, and you will be able to get a speech therapist, and possibly a SEIT (special ed itinerant teacher) to come to your home for therapy. THIS IS FREE UNTIL THE AGE OF THREE IF YOUR CHILD QUALIFIES. After age three, then your school district will pay.

The 2 or 3 times a week therapy session will give you a break from your child, and your child a break from you! This is so important!

Also, she may have a reaction to some food items - diary?- which you should pursue with your doctor.

I know some days it seems impossible! I HAVE DONE LOTS OF CRYING MYSELF.
Sometimes when my son would carry on, I learned that if I gave him his pacifier and picked him up, it would help.

Let me know how your are doing.....we are here for you.

This FANTASTIC advice. I had the same exact issues that you're having Jomana when my son was the same age. Well, not the breast-feeding, as I'm a single Dad.

But I had someone suggest a similar program and after evaluating my son, they enrolled him immediately. He's now almost 6 years old and has improved so much that those days of defiance seem like another lifetime. And honestly 90% of his issue was his inability to communicate his frustrations to me. A lot of that has to do with growing up, but they were able to help both of us in that area.

Best of luck!

[Jomana]

thank you so much for the advice, today am going to cut her off breast milk and am so scared she would get sick or hate me or anything like that, she is crazy about breastmilk, I did put something bitter on it so she wouldnt wanna drink, and started with the pills that takes out the milk, the only thing left is how she would take it....am honestly scared...

[trinserenlink]

Originally Posted by Jomana

thank you so much, I will research for that actually, it might be a real good help for me, I need a break from her, and so does she...

my biggest problem now is how to stop breast feeding her, she does not eat anything at all, and she is almost 2 yrs old, I have to stop breast feeding her but whenver i try to i cant because I feel guilty that this is all the has , and she drinks it all day and night the whole time, what can I do? how can I stop breast feeding her? I feel weak because of all the milk she is taking from me, I need to get my health back by stopping , but how? she won't let me even try to stop

I have worked with birth-to-three with both of my children for speech delay. They are a wonderful resource, a great help, and wonderful encouragement. Birth-to-three is the name of wisconsin's early intervention program.

As for the breast feeding, I don't know what to tell you. I breastfed my youngest for 8 months and when I weaned her I started with breast milk in a bottle or sippy cup, I slowly worked her up to formula by mixing the formula with breast milk, and then worked her up to regular milk by mixing small amounts of formula with milk. I had introduced food to her at about 5 months, so she was already eating.

Some of the behaviors you describe in your daughter are similar to what I experienced with my now four-year-old. She was first recieving therapy for speech delay and through that we discovered that she had a social-emotional disability. The disability may only be temporary, but it affects her reasoning abilities. She will act out agressivley towards people for no reason and other times it is simply a way to entertain herself (she will actually laugh).

You may need a referal from your child's pediatrician in order for your county's early intervention program to work with your child.

[Jomana]

ok I knew stopping the breast milk is gonna be hard but not this hard! she is very sick, high fever, throwing up, and depressed and sitting alone, doesnt really do any activites and doesnt get sleep at all, even at night she is awake almost the whole night, I jus came back from the doctor and he said she is emotionally hurt, and that it would take a week to 10 days for her to adjust, its been 2 days now but she is a disaster and am crying the whole time, seeing her that misreble....if anybody could help me with this, is it gonna be easier if i only stop the daytime breast milk? i mean i really need the sleep its been 2 days that am up, I dont know if I can stop giving her, she doesnt wanna eat anything at all, please any help, am going crazy here, especially i dont have any family that can help around!

[halevic]

I don't think I would wean her cold turkey! Espec if she is sick... I would cut the day time feedings and only breastfeed at night. During the day, give her 3 meals and 3 small snacks, even if she won't eat them. You may try to take her to the park and burn some energy. This will make her hungry enough to try and eat.

I have breastfed both of my boys and that's how I dealt with it. Also, if you have a friend that could feed her a bottle or sippy cup of breastmilk cut will half milk until it is all milk. That might be less traumatic for her.

Kids can be tough... hang in there!